Monday, May 23, 2005
All the feminists are going to kill me for this, but sometimes I think Singaporean guys really have it bad. They have to spend 2 years of their life in army, just because technically guys are built to be stronger than girls. Then they get criticised for complaining about army, and talking about army all the time, and everyone says they are wusses for doing that.
I mean, duh. They were forced to spend 2 years of their life there, what else do you expect them to talk about? When you're in school, you talk about school; so when you're in army you talk about army lar! And its a national hobby to complain anyway... don't see why girls complaining about immature guys is any better than guys complaining about army.
And what exactly is the definition of "maturity" anyway? Accepting all the shit that happens as their lot in life? Dealing with it, and not complaining, like obedient little pups? Or doing things like washing your own clothes and cooking, and inconsequential little things like that? World poverty, pollution and environmental degradation, intellectual ennui, finding the meaning of life - I don't know about you, but making the bed is pretty low down on my list too.
Besides the average Singaporean guy has a lot on his plate - they're supposed to be sensitive and caring, yet they're supposed to be macho and tough. A bit hard to reconcile the two don't you think? Unless you're like, schizophrenic.
And why is it that guys are expected to make the decisions anyway? They're expected to be the ones to chase the girl, expected to open doors for girls, provide for the family if only one person is working, yada yada blah blah. Slaves to stereotype. If you want to have equality of the sexes (which I personally believe is impossible), then you better deal with the equality in everything.
Look, I'm not saying that the guys have a right to complain. They don't have it worse than the girls, we just each have our own kettle of fish to deal with. But what I'm saying is that the girls aren't exactly in the best position to complain about the guys either - pot, kettle, black. I always thought if someone wasn't happy about something in the world, the answer was to stand up and make a difference, start a change. Not sit there and complain and wait for the difference to just conveniently happen. Girls, if the guys ain't making the decisions, then you better be the ones who start making them.
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